Coercive Relationship Legitimation / 强迫关系合法化

Definition

Coercive relationship legitimation is the use of romance, marriage, destiny, family, parenthood, or promised benefit to make an imposed intimate relationship appear valid while displacing a person’s present refusal.

Current Synthesis

In the Baoxiang Kingdom reading of 《太白金星有点烦》, past-life romance and marital language do not answer the decisive question: whether Baihuaxiu agrees now. Mao Ri Xingguan’s “family matter,” heavenly benefit, and mother-child arguments reframe captivity as care, while Baihuaxiu’s own testimony reveals sustained harassment and coercion across both lives. The concept therefore treats consent as continuing and person-specific rather than inherited from an earlier identity or inferred from status.

Key Claims

• Present, voluntary agreement cannot be supplied by a past-life story, legal label, family role, or third-party interpretation.
• “For your own good” can legitimate control when the claimed beneficiary is denied the authority to define their own good.
• Parenthood does not erase a victim’s right to leave a coercive relationship or require continued contact with children born within it.
• Institutional recognition of a relationship can normalize coercion without changing the underlying absence of consent.
• Victim testimony can reverse a perpetrator-centered romance narrative by restoring the sequence of refusal, harassment, confinement, and harm.

Evidence

Relationship labels versus present consent

• 108 趣话马伯庸《太白金星有点烦》P4：世间多少百花羞 contrasts claims of past-life romance and marriage with Baihuaxiu’s present refusal and account of repeated harassment.

Family and benefit as coercive rhetoric

• 108 趣话马伯庸《太白金星有点烦》P4：世间多少百花羞 records appeals to children, celestial benefit, and “family business” as attempts to remove the victim’s choice from consideration.

Counterevidence & Qualifications

The evidence is a literary podcast discussion, not a general empirical study of coercive relationships. The concept does not imply that marriage, parenthood, reconciliation, or benefit claims are always coercive; the problem arises when they are used to override active refusal, confinement, or harm. The secret relocation of the children is a fictional compromise and does not establish a general real-world rule for custody or trauma response.

What Changed

• Established a focused distinction between relationship legitimacy claims and continuing present consent.

Related Concepts

• Consent and Body-Boundary Education / 同意与身体边界教育 - extends the principle that an explicit no cannot be reassigned by another person.
• Consent Violation as Horror / 同意权侵犯恐怖 - neighboring narrative frame where imposed love or possession becomes a source of horror.
• Sacrificing Others Ethics - shares the rule that care or collective benefit cannot automatically authorize decisions over another person’s life.
• Cultural Relativism Victim Protection Boundary - preserves accountability when legitimating narratives obscure concrete harm.
• Public Values Under Cost / 有代价时的公开价值检验 - explains why institutions must act on consent principles when enforcement becomes inconvenient.