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concept Updated 2026-08-23 Tags: Emotion, Agency, Self-Regulation, Relationships, Psychology

Reaction Choice Frame / 反应选择框架

Reaction choice frame / 反应选择框架 is Hanji 161 part 2’s practical rule that an unwanted event is only part of what happens next; the person’s reaction determines much of the downstream damage or recovery. The host invokes Leon Festinger through a popular “10 percent event, 90 percent reaction” formula and uses it to explain anger, betrayal, trust injury, and the need to pause before acting.

The concept is not passive acceptance. In the episode, reaction choice starts by calming the immediate state, accepting that the event has happened, and identifying the “fuse” that made the emotional explosion possible. Only then can the person decide whether the issue calls for better boundaries, higher discernment, compassion, withdrawal, or a different response.

This sits near 情绪调节工具箱 but has a narrower source-scoped emphasis. Emotion regulation asks how to identify and handle feeling; reaction choice asks what happens in the small interval between injury and action, when a destructive response can compound the original harm.

Key Claims

  • Not every triggering event is controllable, but the response remains a major source of leverage.
  • Anger can feel like a temporary loss of self, so action during peak arousal carries extra risk.
  • Pausing is an active move because it preserves judgment before retaliation, complaint, or self-harmful rumination takes over.
  • The source treats betrayal as a test of discernment and self-knowledge, not only as evidence that trust should disappear.
  • The “10/90” formula is recorded as the episode’s popular psychology usage, not as a verified attribution claim about Festinger’s scholarship.

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